Co-sleeping and Breastfeeding to Function

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At Peanut’s 12 month check-up, the Pediatrician asked how often she wakes up at night. My honest answer? I don’t know.

That’s the beauty of co-sleeping while breastfeeding, isn’t it? She stirs, I “wake up” (which is totally not waking up at all), plop her on, and go back to sleep. I don’t even remember this “waking up” the next day.

I’ve always been big on sleep. Like, I’m one of those people who can sleep 12 hours and still feel tired. I am one of those people who can not live on 5 hours of sleep. There is no amount of coffee that can cure my tiredness when I don’t get enough sleep.

I’ve also dealt with insomnia my whole life—at times being bad enough that I’ve had to resort to a certain prescription that people basically black out if they take it and try to stay awake and it still didn’t make me go to sleep. I’m fine with staying asleep once I’m there, but if I’m awake, getting to sleep is nearly impossible.

I was convinced I wouldn’t co-sleep with Peanut. I bought a crib and tried on multiple occasions to put her to sleep in it, but me staying awake through the nursing and getting her deeply enough asleep that she wouldn’t wake up when I set her down just ended up with her sleeping in the crib next to me, me lying awake for an hour, then her waking up a half hour after I finally fall asleep to eat again.

Yes, she woke up every 90 minutes all night long—for the first six months or so of her life. She nursed every 90ish minutes 24 hours a day until she sat upright and started solid foods. Even after that, it was every 2-3 hours. She had really bad reflux and the few times she slept longer than that, she would wake up screaming in pain. There was an adjustment period where my body got used to waking up and going back to sleep so often, but when I look back at those days now, I have a sneaking suspicion that I was much more rested than other moms of newborns.

16 months later, we’re still co-sleeping. Even now, I do not think I could function without co-sleeping and breastfeeding.


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5 thoughts on “Co-sleeping and Breastfeeding to Function

  1. My 13 month old wakes at least 2-3x/night. I couldn’t function without co-sleeping either. At least she doesn’t wake up as much as she did a year ago and I am totally adjusted to her nighttime schedule.

  2. I’m with you. I put DD to sleep in her crib (in our room) at night and when she wakes up for her nightly feeding, I just put her in bed with us and fall asleep. She eats off and on for the rest of the night. When she was super little, she just slept with us all night long. I felt better knowing she was safe and I got way more rest. I can’t imagine doing it any other way.

    What did your doctor say about you not knowing/co-sleeping?

  3. I was just speaking to my mother this morning and when she asked me how many times the baby woke up last night, I couldn’t answer her. I explained to her that its like this perfect nighttime dance, a natural rhythm where neither one of us wakes completely. I really enjoy your blog and will be back!

  4. When feeding her while co-sleeping – she’s lying down pretty horizontally, isn’t she? How’s that work with the reflux? I’m assuming you don’t burp her, either :-)I’m just wondering since I’ve been co-sleeping with my 5 week old who has reflux and tends to be gassy and lately he’s acting like he’s uncomfortable in the middle of the night. I’m wondring if it’s from being horizontal, which is usually advised against with the reflux. But we can’t sleep upright 🙂

    • Yes, she slept horizontally while I was nursing her and co-sleeping. The frequent nursing seemed to keep the reflux at bay (and by frequent, I mean every 60-90 minutes day and night). If she accidentally woke up after sleeping longer, she’d be in screaming pain.

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