I cry for you Kourtney Kardashian.
I always love it when a celebrity openly talks about breastfeeding. Whether they like it or not, they are role models. Young girls watch what they do intently and often want to follow their example—that includes them entering the realm of motherhood. It always makes me happy when a celebrity mentions breastfeeding in a new mom interview. It makes me even happier when they tout the benefits of it. Kourtney even posted a blog about nursing in public and honestly I can say that if the paparazzi were following me around with cameras, I may cover up while NIP too.
This week, Kourtney posted on her blog that her son has stopped breastfeeding. That, of course, is not the thing I feel so sad about. Every child stops breastfeeding at some point and that’s how it’s supposed to be. I’m sure that when Peanut stops, there will be a moment or two of sadness, but since I plan on weaning when Peanut chooses to, I don’t think there will be regret. I feel sad for Kourtney Karshasian because she sounds like she has regret.
She explains in her blog about weaning that once she got beyond a year, people started asking her “when are you going to stop nursing already?!” That’s where it all stems. Do you think she would have weaned if people weren’t pressuring her to? She barely hit the American Academy of Pediatrics’ minimum recommendation and people already started pestering her. Nevermind the World Health Organization’s recommendation of 2 years.
Personally, since Peanut will be 2 this month, I’m ready to have those questions start. I got a few “how long do you plan on nursing?” questions before Peanut was even a year and some people seemed like they wanted to say something when she was over a year, but I haven’t really gotten much flack. I’m sure a big part of that is because I am so obviously pro-breastfeeding and confident about it that people don’t want to say anything and have me explode at them. I’m hoping it’s mostly tolerance from the people around me. I’m sure that with Peanut turning 2, we’re hitting even the most pro-breastfeeding people’s limits though, so I’m sure some comments will start.
Why though, do we live in a society where it’s okay to pester a mom about her breastfeeding habits? I mean, is there any other aspect of life where people feel like they’re allowed to butt in like that? Maybe family will bother you about your habits, but do random strangers tell you what you’re doing wrong in any subject other than parenting? And beyond that, breastfeeding is the most butted into thing about parenting! Do you have random strangers telling you that you need to get your child out of their crib or your bed? Do you have people telling you that you’re forcing your child not to potty train because you enjoy changing their diapers? Maybe cuddling your toddler to sleep at night is selfish? And you know what? I’ll never tell you that the Happy Meal you’re giving your child isn’t nutritional even though I’m thinking it, but you’re allowed to tell me I shouldn’t breastfeed my child because beyond x amount of time it’s no longer nutritional (which is totally wrong). Not even your pediatrician will tell you that you shouldn’t feed your child a Happy Meal, but I’ve heard many stories of pediatricians telling moms to stop breastfeeding.
So I feel sad that Kourtney Kardashian was pressured into stopping breastfeeding before she wanted to. I feel sorry that we live in a world where any mom is pressured to stop before she and her baby are ready. Moms who are still breastfeeding, don’t give into the pressure to quit. Stop when you and your child are ready, not when society tells you to.
Have you received many comments about stopping breastfeeding before you were ready? Did you stop breastfeeding before you were ready? If you stopped before you were ready, do you have regret?