Breastfeeding Gave Me Empathy

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This post was written as part of the Breastfeeding Cafe’s Carnival. For more info on the Breastfeeding Cafe, go to www.breastfeedingcafe.wordpress.com. For more info on the Carnival or if you want to participate, contact Claire at clindstrom2 {at} gmail {dot} com. Today’s post is about how breastfeeding has changed the way you parent. Please read the other blogs in today’s carnival listed below and check back for more posts July 18th-31st!

I am not an empathetic person by nature. I have trouble putting myself into other people’s situations and feeling happy, sad, sorry, etc. for them. I don’t know why, but it’s just not how I work. It never has been.

You can imagine how not feeling empathetic can affect parenting.

Until you put yourself into your child’s shoes, it’s impossible to truly understand what they need. I think that this is part of the issue with a lot of parenting “tactics” out there. If you don’t truly understand what it’s like to be that little person, things like crying it out don’t seem so bad. Babies can be framed with malicious intent. It’s just impossible to understand why babies and toddlers do the things they do if you can’t empathize with their situation.

Breastfeeding gave me this. Everyone talks about one of the major benefits of breastfeeding being the bonding, but I think it went deeper than that for me. Breastfeeding put me so in touch with my children that I am able to really understand how they feel. Using that information helps me provide their needs and understand why they need them.

So really, breastfeeding made me realize the importance of co-sleeping, babywearing, gentle discipline, and much much more. It made me understand how these things are helpful to my children and how they are really what they need. Now that I can put myself into their shoes, it all makes so much more sense. Breastfeeding has given me the empathy to be the parent I want to be.

Here are more posts by the Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival participants! Check back because more will be added throughout the day.

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