Leading Lady Nursing Bra Review

Style 408

The bra I chose (style 408).

Throughout the almost 3 years that I was nursing Peanut by herself, I only really wore nursing tank tops. Shortly after she was born, I went to a local breastfeeding store and bought a nursing bra that fit perfectly, but even though the fit was right, it was still wrong for me. It was a really cliche nursing bra. No padding, no wire, covering more than a swimsuit does. It just felt so boring and, honestly, felt almost like I wasn’t wearing a bra at all when I wore it. The nursing tanks at least held me in, so I started wearing just the nursing tank tops.

Then when Peanut got to the age where she wasn’t nursing as often (somewhere over a year old), I went out and bought a normal-for-me bra again and loved it. It was a hassle to move for nursing and it wasn’t very comfortable, but it was pretty, which I liked. Even though no one sees them, pretty under-things can do a lot for one’s self esteem and confidence. Definitely not a bra I’d like to deal with when I had a small baby who wanted to eat really frequently (plus who wants to add any extra stress or pain when you have a wee one?), so I figured I’d go back to just the nursing tanks when Twig was born.

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Then Leading Lady came to me asking if I’d like to do a bra review. I looked at the bras and they were all very pretty. That’s means they have to be uncomfortable, right? Or maybe since they’re nursing bras, that means they won’t give me any support? I was conflicted, to say the least. I decided that I would try it out since it would be really nice to feel pretty and be functional as their claims suggested I would, but I didn’t have very high hopes.

Oh boy, am I happy to say I was wrong!

First off, their customer service is superb. I was really concerned about ordering a bra off the internet. How would I figure out what size to buy? How would I know which style I liked? Just how could this possibly work?!?

Turns out they have a really easy sizing system. Just two quick measurements (and a picture to show you exactly where to measure, which has always been my problem with buying clothes online) and it pops out a size for you. You can even print a tape measurer!

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Then there’s a variety of bras to choose from, based on activity. Do you want a comfy bra for while you’re at home? Possibly one for the gym? Do you have problems with plugged ducts, therefore you won’t want an underwire? Their site is divided easily into the purpose for the bra, so there’s no fiddling through hundreds of bras trying to figure out exactly which one you want. I chose style 408 from the underwire collection.

It’s so pretty! It’s so functional! It’s fantastic! I think I’m happier with this bra than I’ve been with any of my non-nursing bras I’ve ever worn. Seriously. I feel beautiful with this on under my clothes and it’s so quick and easy to undo. Even tandem nursing, it’s fantastic. So easy to unclip and it tucks entirely out of the way, which is great because Twig doesn’t like anything touching her face while she nurses. I still haven’t figured out what to do to cover my belly if I pull up my shirt to nurse, but I either wear a tank top over it still, which is a nice combination, or I wear a shirt that I can pull the top down to nurse.

I honestly love this bra so much that I’m planning on ordering another (on my own dime!). They have a lovely new Spring Collection that was just released in March and I’m loving some of the new additions. Look at that super cute nursing tank above and on the right. I think I could wear that as a shirt all by itself! Possibly with a cardigan over it in the winter? Or this super cute bra on the left, which is darling in pink, but will be available in white in the very near future. Cute and comfy!

I may just take advantage of their Father’s Day lace bra sale! You should too! Thinking a bra is a really peculiar Father’s Day gift? Well what better way to show dad you love him than with a new lacy bra? I’m sure my husband would enjoy that! The sale starts June 14th, but you can start getting your $5 off lace bras today with the code LACE5.


Tandem Nursing and Nearing the Third Trimester

I’ve done my best to document how nursing through pregnancy has been. First it was painful and gave me the heebeegeebees, then my milk went away and Peanut didn’t nurse for days on end, then my colostrum came in and she was ecstatic, now things are pretty much back to normal.

I realized that I haven’t really said much about nursing while pregnant lately because we’re just doing it. I don’t really have much to complain about so I don’t even think to mention it on here, but that’s exactly why I should mention it. I read about a lot of moms that have problems with nursing while pregnant and that is indeed one variation of normal, but I think that this variation needs some representation too.

Nursing while pregnant doesn’t have to be hard. It doesn’t have to make you cringe every time you do it. It doesn’t have to be part of your day that you dread coming to. There’s nothing you can do to influence whether you’re going to get the short end of the stick, but women need to know that the short end isn’t the only end. It’s possible to have a good experience with nursing while pregnant.

Mostly pregnant moms will have at least some point in their pregnancy that’s at least annoying to nurse through. Some moms it’s so painful that they can’t stand it. Some moms get such weird feelings that they start to doubt their sanity. Some moms just feel mildly annoyed at the thought of nursing. This is a very real part of nursing while pregnant. My point is that it isn’t the only part. You’ll likely go in ebbs and flows of nursing being annoying/sucky to alright. It might even change from day to day.

Right now, I just feel some mild pain when Peanut nurses. Almost like I can just feel her teeth too much. She works with me to decrease it as much as possible by getting a big mouthful and that makes it very tolerable for me. So much so that I can drift off to sleep while she’s nursing. It’s actually pretty lovely that I can go back to sleep in the morning when she’s suddenly waking up at 6am for some reason. Yeah, I still don’t get to sleep in as late as I’d like, but it’s better than nothing.

We’ve also gotten to the point that I know it’s colostrum in there, but there’s a lot! She’s actually gulping over and over. I wonder if my supply is adjusting even with just colostrum. Can it even do that? I’m not sure. All I’ve ever heard is that there isn’t much colostrum because a baby’s stomach is so tiny. Maybe it’s because Peanut is really only nursing once a day (though sometimes more if she sees a friend nursing or I’m feeling lazy about getting her to sleep), so it builds up all day and then she gets it all at once? Regardless, I’m happy that I can actually fill her tummy again.

What was your experience with nursing while pregnant? Did you have good times to go along with the bad? Any advice for my soon-to-be nursing two at a time?

Whole Foods Nurse-In

It’s difficult to get into words how absolutely shocked I was to hear that a Whole Foods in my area discriminated against a mom for breastfeeding her son while shopping. Whole Foods where it says right in the store’s name their philosophy of eating discriminates against the whole-est food of all? It just doesn’t make sense.

What this really brings to light is how little breastfeeding mothers in my area (Utah) are protected in these types of situations. This article in the Salt Lake Tribune has quotes from Jake Aryeh Marcus explaining the flaws of Utah’s law. The basic problem is that it protects women from something they don’t need to be protected from–being charged for public indecency. She talks about how this is a phoney law because no mom has ever been charged with such a thing and moms still can be harassed or even kicked out of a business for feeding their child.

This is all just so outrageous that I can’t even wrap my head around it. I can’t believe that our government will spend countless dollars promoting “Breast is Best” (which is wrong because breast is normal), but they can’t create a law that protects the moms who are currently breastfeeding. So we should do what is best, but not leave our house during that recommended 6 months that a baby stays exclusively breastfed and only leave around feedings when they continue to breastfeed at least another 1.5 years beyond that? And don’t even tell me to pump and use a bottle because if you say that you obviously haven’t ever been in that situation and I’ll tell you where to stick that bottle.

So what can you do? First off, attend your local Whole Foods Nurse-In tomorrow (mine is at 3:00PM in at the Trolley Square location). Even if you’re not currently nursing, you can come just to show your support. You can bet my husband will be there with me wearing his “Real Men Support Breastfeeding” t-shirt (which everyone loved at the Big Latch On and Babywearing Flash Mob). There are events in nearly every state and you can find them through the Whole Foods National Nurse-In Facebook page. You can also boycott Whole Foods and write them telling them how you are disappointed with the situation and you won’t be shopping there until they have developed a policy that supports breastfeeding.

The other big thing you can do is write your local representative and tell them to change your law. If you’re not sure of what the law is in your state, here’s a list. Just because your state is listed under the 45 that have some law related to letting a woman breastfeed anywhere she’s legally able to be doesn’t mean that you’re in the clear. I’m not quite sure why Utah is under the list when we don’t have such a law. Here is the email that I plan on sending to both my State Senator and Representative (which should be easily editable for you to send in to yours):

Hello __________,

My name is __________ and I am one of your constituents in ________. I am not sure if you are aware of the recent harassment a mother nursing her child was subjected to at Whole Foods store in Utah, but it has called into light a lack of protection in our state laws. Our current law prohibits a mother from being charged for public indecency, but this law is insufficient because there has yet to be a case of a mother being charged in such a way.

While we would like to believe that businesses have the decency to allow a mother to simply feed her child, this event along with many others has proven otherwise. We can not trust businesses to do what is right and it has therefore become necessary to pass a law that affirms “a mother may breastfeed her child in any location, public or private, except the private home or residence of another, where the mother and the child are otherwise authorized to be present.”

Please consider the mothers out there who are hiding in their homes for fear of persecution when all they are doing is feeding their child. Please consider all of the babies who are prematurely weaned because of their mother’s lack of support. Please consider all the tax dollars that are spent on the Breast is Best campaign that are wasted because the state does not back-up such a program with laws that support these mothers. Please do your best to make sure that mothers who are feeding their children in the best and most natural way possible are protected from discrimination.

Thank you for your time,